Dad's Life: Rookie Training
8/9/2016 1:09 PM
1. Have patience with both baby and mom; both will require your love, attention, and strength.
2. Work as a team with mom. When you see she needs a break, give her one. If you need one, be sure to take one.
3. Enjoy your moments! Sometimes we dads get caught up in trying to provide for our family, but we need to step back and enjoy our precious time with our new baby and mom! Don’t rush or skip your time with them. You can’t get that cherished moment back.
Baby Care: Don’t be afraid to get dirty. Accidents will happen (just ask all my shirts). Speaking of spitting up, remember to not overfeed your bundle of joy. Keep track of your feedings and when to feed again. Also, we use the Baby Aquaphor ointment for diaper rash. We’ve used it from day one and haven’t had any problems.
Mama Care: Let your better half REST as much as possible, especially if she’s a stay-at-home mom. When you get back from work, let mom shower and have time to herself. Rub her feet (ALWAYS!) and don’t forget to tell her she’s beautiful.
If the baby is fussy and all other troubleshooting efforts have failed, grab some skin lotion and massage their whole body. Pay extra attention to pressure points on the hands and feet.
In the beginning, you’re gonna need a lot of wipes. You can never have enough wipes, they’re like the waterproof matches in a survival kit. Skin-to-skin contact is important. Lay them on your bare chest. It bonds them more than you think. Forget sleep for the first month - then it gets regular after that and you gradually get more sleep. If you’re going to show your lil baby off, pack EXTRA clothes. Clothes get dirty, I promise.
For mama: Get her what she wants, it doesn’t matter if she wants a large shake, get it! Foot rubs, back rubs, all of it. If she asks, you should just do it.
Read to your baby every day! It creates special together time, gives you and your kiddo a relaxing routine, and it helps your child build a strong vocabulary for future success.
Whatever your kids are interested in, whether it’s karate, dance or volleyball, get really involved in it. Learn the rules, help them practice and be the carpool driver. Immersing yourself in their special activity gives you so much quality time with them, helps you connect with them and makes your hours on the court or at the competitions that much more enjoyable. Connecting your kids with a team or club teaches them about goals, hard work and handling disappointment in life.
As a dad, you’ll realize there are many things out of your control and we need to rely on God and trust in Him to protect our loved ones. Pray for your children and be thankful.
Create a habit of singing and reading before they go to bed and take advantage of that golden opportunity to teach your baby about God. Reading Bible story books, and singing about His goodness will leave an everlasting imprint. Repeat a couple of short Bible verses about faith and you’ll see how fast they memorize them!
Nothing calms my twin daughters as much as reading and singing before going to bed. Before they go to sleep, pray with your babies and show him/her to be grateful to God for the day’s blessings.
The CTMC Women’s Center acknowledges fathers and the integral role they play in raising happy, healthy children. Thanks for all you do for your children and your mate. We’re glad to partner with you through classes and your personal birth experience.